So I got to teach in Relief Society on Sunday. It was a rough week and I found a few talks by Julie Beck and Sherri Dew (my favorites) that I wanted to base my lesson off of, but every time I sat down, my mind was just all fuzzy and I couldn't get a cohesive lesson together. But, Saturday night, Than took the kids and set up a tent in the backyard and watched a movie out there with them and slept out there, and I curled up on the couch to work on it. Backstep, First thing I did when I got to the couch was kneel down and say a prayer because I was struggling so badly to get a lesson together and I really wanted to give our sisters a message that Heavenly Father would want them to hear and so I prayed that I could do it. And guess what....in less than 2 hours...it was finished. Totally done and I felt total confidence that it was what Heavenly Father wanted me to give because it turned out a lot different than what I had originally had in my head. Know why....it's not my lesson. It's not my ideas. I'm not some amazing lesson maker but I really had a desire to say something that could help someone else. And I think I was able to do that with the help of the Holy Ghost.
Here is the first quote that I had read that started the whole thing. It's from Women's Conference 2010 from Julie Beck. Funny story is that when I first saw this, Than and I were driving to go out to eat on Sunday---it was when we were on Vacation in San Diego---and when I read this I was like, Man! I just want to be like Julie Beck! She's so amazing. And Than jokingly says, "I bet Julie Beck wouldn't be skipping church and eating out on Sunday! Touché! He's so funny.
“The first thing I learned from the history of Relief Society is that it strengthens
and supports the identity of daughters of God. Our Father and His Son, Jesus
Christ, love, value, and rely on their daughters. God’s daughters, we know,
have equal importance in His sight with His sons. They have unique
responsibilities and duties in the plan of salvation, and they share some
responsibilities in the plan with Heavenly Father’s sons. They also have a
unified purpose in our Heavenly Father’s plan with His sons. There is an
interesting, exciting, and female identity of greatness, richness, that is
choice beyond comparison. This identity that the Lord has given us and that
we understand through the gospel of Jesus Christ is in direct contrast to the
debased and devalued identity of women that we find in the world today. We
find an elevated, strong identity that comes from our Heavenly Father. This
identity and purpose can only be fully understood through a spiritual
confirmation. There is an intellectual study that can be made, but a spiritual
confirmation is what teaches us who we are and what we are to do. There is
much out in the world that is false by way of identity. There are identities of
sensuality, women seeking power, prestige, money, leisure—all of these things
are different identities. But the identity of a daughter of God is precious
beyond compare—and rich and full. We know that women are the guardians
of the hearth and the home. And they have the responsibility for the hearts and
souls of men and women and the children of our Heavenly Father. They are
given this powerful and influential leadership role. Female responsibilities
include being a wife, include being a mother, a daughter, a sister, an aunt,
a friend. This is all about nurturing, teaching, and influencing. These are
non-negotiable responsibilities. We can’t delegate them. We can accept them
and live them, but these are things we understood before we were born, and we
can’t negotiate with the Lord about whether or not these are our
responsibilities. They have been part of the plan from the beginning; they are
not going to change because of any clamor to the contrary. These are our
Here is another quote that I love. It's from 1987 but still applies today.
If I were Satan and wanted to destroy a society, I think I would stage a full-blown blitz on women. I would keep them so distraught and distracted that they would never find the calming strength and serenity for which their sex has always been known.
Satan has effectively done that, catching us in the crunch of trying to be superhuman instead of striving to reach our unique, God-given potential within such diversity. He tauntingly teases us that if we don’t have it all—fame, fortune, families, and fun, and have it all the time—we have been short-changed and are second-class citizens in the race of life. As a sex we are struggling, our families are struggling, and our society is struggling. Drugs, teenage pregnancies, divorce, family violence, and suicide are some of the ever-increasing side effects of our collective life in the express lane.
Patricia Holland; One Thing is Needful, 1987
Another one from a Julie Beck talk.
“The question is, “Am I aligned with the Lord’s vision of me and what He needs me to become and the roles and responsibilities He gave me in heaven that are not negotiable? Am I aligned with that, or am I trying to escape my duties?” Those are the kinds of things we need to understand. Our Heavenly Father loves His daughters, and because He loves us and the reward at the end is so glorious, we do not get a pass from the responsibilities we were given. We cannot give them away. They are our sacred duties and we fulfill them under covenant.” Julie Beck
The whole lesson was on: What is the true identity of a Woman of God? What are her Responsibilities? And then what? How we can do it and how the Relief Society is there to help.
Here's another one that I ended up not using because of time but I loved it. From Julie beck.
With the Lord’s Spirit, women can know what to do. I have been to places in the world where women aren’t able to read. They haven’t had the opportunity or have not been taught, but because of the Lord’s power that is placed upon them, the covenants they have made in the temple, and His Spirit that is poured out upon them, they are powerful women. They can discern His will, solve major problems, and feel peace, comfort, and guidance in their lives. Education is wonderful, but being able to feel the Lord’s power and Spirit upon us is the highest education we can achieve. With that, we have power and influence. Without it, we will not be able to navigate in this life. The adversary will pick us off one by one, and we will be drawn off course by the many, many voices that are out there distracting us. With the Lord’s Spirit upon us, we are strong and solid and will be able to walk with Him.
I won't put everything on here but I love the feeling that I get from reading those talks and I really feel like if we know and understand our identity, as daughters of God....literal daughters of a Heavenly Father who loves us.....every single one of us....we have a limitless potential and can have the power to do all things. And as daughters of God we have certain responsibilities given to us and those are enough and they are important and we are to work really hard to fulfill those responsibilities.
Anyway...I was relieved when Sunday was over and I got food feedback and I could relax a little.
Now onto some cute pictures of my kids.
Maren LOVES Penny. And penny tolerates Maren. Penny really loves Pacen because she gets to sleep with him every night. Maren is a hugger. She gives all of us big hugs whenever we want but she gives Penny hugs everyday. She just loves sharing the love!
Sometimes I don't like that we have a pool. It costs a lot. It takes up a lot of space. It can be unsafe. We have a pool right down the street that we have to pay for anyway. But, this spring we put a solar blanket on it and it has made it sooooooo much warmer. It used to be 69 degrees and now it's 85! The bottom is still colder but we all were in it the other day and it was amazing. I was in for like 45 minutes and that never happened before because I was just too cold. And the kids have been in it a lot and it does make me happy. I just don't want it to be a waste and now that it's warmer I don't think it will be.
I swing Maren in the afternoon. It just seems like an afternoon type of thing. I pretend that she kicks me in the face and it makes me pretty much the funniest thing ever. Not a new joke....all the kids loved it. :)
Just random pictures of Gentry on my phone. And about 60 pictures of the floor.
Just to document my crazy short hair that I really love. It takes me no time to get ready and I get compliments on it all the time. It's a totally win win.
Pacen's baseball game on Friday night...which they won....was FREEZING! And I always forget that it's going to get cold because its sooooo hot in the afternoon so i'm never prepared with enough jackets. It's something about fog and san Francisco and it'll make summer evenings super breezy and cool.
There was a time in my life when I knew exactly what pictures had been blogged about and which ones hadn't and I edited my pictures and trashed all the ones I didn't need. These are not those days. I've been so behind but now I'm catching up.
Random bubble bath with my two littlest. They are good buddies.
I think I took this because I was getting rid of a bunch of stuff. yes...i see the garbage bags in the hall. Sometimes I feel bad because my little kids don't have as many toys as my big kids did but I have a much cleaner house now. And they still have enough toys....obviously.
And this is Maren's favorite activity if I don't close the refrigerator soon enough. She takes them all out and (mostly) puts them all back in.
Claira was super proud of her puzzles and wanted to take pictures of all the finished products. She is going to make a great blogger someday! Really I think I just counted 45 pictures of just these puzzles on my phone.
More pool love.
We have strawberries! But you have to be fast or the squirrels will eat them!
Claira is my garden helper. She was sooooooo excited for strawberries.
Maren was looking cute in those super cute pants. She will not keep a bow in, darn it!
My Creative Claira.
This is good parenting, right?
Hobby Lobby is finally in our area! WHAT WHAT?!?!?! Theres goes our bank account. :)
One of Claira's perfect little curls. I wonder if she'll have curly hair forever.
What do we do to pass the time at swimming....take selfies of course!
Those teeth kill me.
Pacen and Camry walk home from school. There has only been one time that it hasn't worked out well. Camry came home crying and Pacen was not exactly being nice but it turned out Camry wasn't exactly being nice either so i made them both work it out and spent the rest of the day on their beds and then when Than called (I think he was out of town when it happened) he made them write letters to each other and believe it or not, there hasn't been a problem since! Pacen even carries her backpack from time to time.
More Claira school work.
I have underestimated the power of sticker charts with my kids. We finally started one a few months ago and it's been amazing! The power of a silly sticker is wonderful! This is one that I'm going to use this summer with Claira. Her teacher uses it and they think it's the coolest thing ever. Guess what she got when she filled up the chart?? A certificate! It's so funny what motivates kids.
This was a few pages out of those bob books that kids read all the time. Really? Really you write about a person sitting on a keg and taking a nap?!?!? It seemed really funny to me.
Bonding over netflix.
Bonding at the ear doctor's office. Still no word on the tubes. The ear looked "better" so he was giving it another three weeks. WE go back in on Monday to see. Then he'll make his final decision. Her speech is still behind so I don't think the problem is solved.
Hanging at the park.
This same park trip tried out miss Gentry pie. It was so awesome having them both down for a nap at the same time!
Pacen had a Sacramento field trip a few weeks ago. They got to ride a bus and everything! I didn't go but am sure glad good parents could get the whole day off to go support them.
My buddies at home. You can tell Maren is learning how to share. :)
a girl and her dog.
I was trying to figure out what sliding glass door she was in front of and then realized this is our big kitchen window. Yep, just hanging on the counter. That's how she rolls.